Neurodiverse Couples and Partners

Support & Coaching Groups and Online Discussion Forums

AANE offers the following supports for spouses/partners in neurodiverse relationships.  We realize these groups do not cover all types of relationships.  We welcome requests for additional neurodiverse relationship coaching groups.  Please contact grace.myhill@aane.org.

Online Couples/Partners Discussion Forums:
  • Divorced from/Co-Parenting with Ex-Partner with Asperger's/Autism Discussion Forum
  • Neurotypical Spouses/Partners in a Neurodiverse Relationship
  • Online Discussion Forum Sign-Up Form
These groups provide unique support opportunities for those in relationships, in which one or both individuals have an Asperger profile. As safe and understanding forums comprised of partners of those with Asperger profiles, these groups provide spaces for people to give and to receive relationship feedback specific to their needs. We currently offer online groups available to people all over the world.    

Online "Open" Support Group for Spouses/Partners

All Open Support Groups have new people joining from session to session and are FREE. This group, serving people from all over the world, is for the neurotypical individual married to or in partnership with someone with an Asperger profile. Here you will have the opportunity to offer and receive support, to strategize, and to share experiences with others who might relate to your situation.  The group is co-facilitated by Leslie Sickels, LCSW, and Pat Schissel, LMSW, NY Director of AANE. Registration is required to receive the online meeting link.
First Tuesday of the month, 6:30 – 8:00 PM ET:

Online Fee-Based Coaching Groups

Financial aid is available for couple and spouse partner groups that require a fee, by contacting grace.myhill@aane.org.  

Neurodiverse Couples Coaching Groups

These groups are often the first time that neurodiverse couples have the chance to speak with other neurodiverse couples about how their neurodiversity affects their relationship. They offer you the opportunity to realize that the issues you are struggling with are not unique to your relationship. This makes it possible to take things less personally and to learn new tools and strategies from the other couples who have similar experiences and issues, and from Grace who understands both partners and can interpret for each. No formal diagnosis is required.

Both you and your partner will feel normalized and validated for your neurology. Understanding and acceptance increases over the course of the group sessions for yourself and your partner and the unique challenges that neurodiverse couples face.

GROUP DETAILS:

Each group is limited to 5 couples. New groups are always forming. Meetings are 60 minutes.

Dates: The group meets once a month for a series of 4 months, either on a weekday evening or on Saturday. To get the schedule, email grace.myhill@aane.org.

Cost: $70 per couple per session; $200 for each series of 4 meetings.

Neurodiverse Couples Coaching Groups for Gay Men

These groups are often the first time that gay men in neurodiverse relationships have the chance to speak with other couples about how their neurodiversity affects their relationship. They offer you the opportunity to realize that the issues you are struggling with are not unique to your relationship. This makes it possible to take things less personally and to learn new tools and strategies from the other couples who have similar experiences and issues, and from Grace who understands both partners and can interpret for each. No formal diagnosis is required.

Both you and your partner will feel normalized and validated for your neurology. Understanding and acceptance increases over the course of the group sessions for yourself and your partner and the unique challenges that neurodiverse couples face.

GROUP DETAILS:

Each group is limited to 5 couples. New groups are always forming. Meetings are 60 minutes.

Dates: The group meets once a month for a series of 4 months, either on a weekday evening or on Saturday. To get the schedule, email grace.myhill@aane.org.

Cost: $70 per couple per session; $200 for each series of 4 meetings.

Neurodiverse Couples Coaching Groups for Gay Women 

These groups are often the first time that gay women in neurodiverse relationships have the chance to speak with other couples about how their neurodiversity affects their relationship. They offer you the opportunity to realize that the issues you are struggling with are not unique to your relationship. This makes it possible to take things less personally and to learn new tools and strategies from the other couples who have similar experiences and issues, and from Grace who understands both partners and can interpret for each. No formal diagnosis is required.

Both you and your partner will feel normalized and validated for your neurology. Understanding and acceptance increases over the course of the group sessions for yourself and your partner and the unique challenges that neurodiverse couples face.

GROUP DETAILS:

Each group is limited to 5 couples. New groups are always forming. Meetings are 60 minutes.

Dates: The group meets once a month for a series of 4 months, either on a weekday evening or on Saturday. To get the schedule, email grace.myhill@aane.org.

Cost: $70 per couple per session; $200 for each series of 4 meetings.

Neurotypical Spouses/Partners Coaching Groups

These groups are just for the neurotypical partner in a neurodiverse relationship. No formal diagnosis for your partner is required. Get support and strategies from others who truly understand and are also facing the challenges that come with being in a neurodiverse relationship. Learn tools from Grace, who will address the specific questions from the group participants. You can come once or multiple times each month.

GROUP DETAILS:

Each group generally consists of 5 - 15 people. New members are always welcome. Meetings are 90 minutes.

Dates: The group meets one Sunday each month, one Tuesday evening each month, and every other Thursday each month. To get the schedule, email grace.myhill@aane.org.

Cost: $45 per person

 

Neurotypical Women Whose Ex-Partners Have an Asperger Profile Coaching Groups

These groups are the only one of their kind, for neurotypical women who are separating or divorced from an ex partner who may be on the spectrum. No formal diagnosis of your partner is required. Group members share their wealth of knowledge and experience coping with a variety of issues including legal, financial, practical, emotional, and the communication needed to parent your shared children. Discussions are focused on the topics that group members bring up.

GROUP DETAILS:

Each group generally consists of 5 - 15 people. New members are always welcome. Meetings are 90 minutes.

Dates: The group meets one Sunday each month. To get the schedule, email grace.myhill@aane.org.

Cost: $45 per person

 

Partners with an Asperger Profile Coaching Groups

These groups are just for the partner who may have an Asperger profile. No formal diagnosis is necessary. Even if you don't think you have an Asperger profile but your partner thinks you do, you are welcome. Come and ask your questions or just listen to suggestions from myself and the others who will offer tools and strategies that may improve your relationship.

GROUP DETAILS:

Each group generally consists of 5 - 15 people. New members are always welcome. Meetings are 90 minutes.

Dates: The group meets one Tuesday evening each month. To get the schedule, email grace.myhill@aane.org.

Cost: $45 per person

 

AANE Online Couples/Partners Discussion Forums

Looking for an online community who understands what life is like for you? Join one of AANE’s staff moderated online discussion groups.  Scroll down and complete the sign-up form.

Divorced from/Co-Parenting with Ex-Partner with Aspergers's/Autism Discussion Forum

This group serves those who are co-parenting with an ex-partner with an Asperger profile. This group consists of those who are sharing a common experience of co-parenting with ex-spouses with an Asperger profile. Here you will have the opportunity to offer and receive support, to strategize, and to share experiences with others in who might relate to your situation. Grace Myhill, LICSW, is the group moderator. She has facilitated Divorced from/Co-Parenting with an Ex with Asperger profiles Groups for AANE since 2004 and has counseled many clients before, during, and after this difficult transition. To Join: Please send an email to Grace at grace.myhill@aane.org or fill out the form below.

Neurotypical Spouses/Partners in a Neurodiverse Relationship

This group, serving people from all over the world, is for individuals married to or in partnership with someone with an Asperger profile. Here you will have the opportunity to offer and receive support, to strategize, and to share experiences with others in who might relate to your situation.Grace Myhill, LICSW, is the group moderator. Grace is a clinical social worker who specializes in working with adults with Asperger profiles and/or their spouses. She has facilitated Spouse/Partner Groups for AANE since 2004 and has counseled many neurodiverse couples. To Join: Please send an email to Grace at grace.myhill@aane.org or fill out the form below.      

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