The Peter M. Friedman
Neurodiverse Couples Institute

Training and resources for neurodiverse couples and for the therapists who work with them.

 

The Neurodiverse Love podcast is devoting an entire season to hear from AANE's certified neurodiverse couples therapists and coaches. In the first episode of the season, Grace Myhill, AANE's Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Institute, will explain the training AANE offers therapists and coaches to enable them to successfully work with neurodiverse couples and partners. We welcome you to listen to the podcast.

 

AANE Certified Couples/Partner Therapists & Coaches

AANE now offers comprehensive online courses that teach couples to recognize and understand their neurodiverse relationship as well as online courses that train clinicians how to effectively work with neurodiverse couples in therapy.

Neurodiverse Couples

101 FOR COUPLES: Fundamentals of Recognizing and Understanding Neurodiversity in a 3 hour self-paced online course including 9 video interviews with neurodiverse couples,  4 lectures by experts in the field of neurodiverse couples therapy, and downloadable resources including first person accounts for you to keep.

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Couples Therapists

TRAINING 101: Fundamentals of Working with Neurodiverse Couples in Therapy teaches therapists how to recognize, understand, and effectively treat neurodiverse couples in therapy. This is a 10 hour self-paced online training.

Developed by Grace Myhill, MSW, the course includes in depth lectures from Grace and other experts in the field, including insights and observations from a panel of therapists who work with neurodiverse couples. In addition to hearing from professionals, you will get an intimate peek into the lives of 10 neurodiverse couples as they share their experiences and the complexities of being in a neurodiverse relationship.

CERTIFICATION 201: Case Presentations and Advanced Topics in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy is for those who want to hone their skills and knowledge about working with neurodiverse couples in therapy. Classes will meet 8 times for 90 minutes by video conference.

With a small group of 5 - 8 fellow clinicians, participants will hear short lectures by Grace Myhill, MSW on topics such as telling a couple they are neurodiverse, dealing with meltdowns, and discussing physical intimacy. Participants will also present and discuss their own clients, as well as have a Q & A session with a neurodiverse couple and with a specialist in the field of neurodiverse couples therapy.

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AANE 25th Anniversary Snapshot   Neurodiverse Couples Institute

Origin:  Facilitating couples and spouses support groups at AANE since 2004, Grace Myhill saw the need for a new approach to treating couples in neurodiverse relationships. In a March 2015 article* Grace, who is now AANE’s Neurodiverse Couple’s Institute Director, and AANE Executive Director Dania Jekel laid out the Myhill-Jekel model for treating neurodiverse couples in therapy.  

Program Development:  The Neurodiverse Couples Institute was founded in 2016 through a generous grant from the Friedman family, which allowed for the development of online courses to train therapists.  Based on the Myhill-Jekel method, online courses Training 101 and Certification 201 launched in Fall 2018.  The courses train and certify therapists to recognize and work effectively with neurodiverse couples.

Growth:  As of May 2021, 92 therapists have completed Training 101 and 63 have completed Certification 201.  A new online course, 101 for Couples, launched in February 2021 and helps couples recognize and understand what it means to be in a neurodiverse relationship.  By May 2021, 120 couples have taken the course.

*March 2015 Massachusetts Edition of the National Association of Social Workers newsletter “Focus”

Neurodiverse Couples Institute

Intimate relationships can be hard, but they are especially challenging for neurodiverse couples who have very different perspectives, communication techniques, approaches and skill sets than each other. We offer a variety of resources that take into account these differences, to help improve communication and connection.

A Warm Welcome from Peter M. Friedman

Dear neurodiverse couples and therapists,

Welcome to the AANE community! We are so glad to have you join us! I am very excited to announce the launch of the Peter M. Friedman Neurodiverse Couples Institute at AANE. When my family and I found the AANE community, we felt like we'd found a home. AANE understands what it's like to be part of a neurodiverse relationship and has over 20 years of experience providing training and consultation to professionals. Having been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome since age 21 (now 51) and having suffered the social backlashes that often accompanies one with AS throughout every stage of my life, my relationship with my wife is incredibly important to me. Therefore, having a therapist who understands and can work effectively with neurodiverse couples (such as my wife and me) is critical to the health and well-being of our marriage. We hope you can find the “home” that my family has found with AANE.

Please feel free to share any feedback, comments and suggestions you may have, so that we can enhance this program to the maximum extent possible.

With love and hope!

Peter M. Friedman

The mission of the Peter M. Friedman Neurodiverse Couples Institute is to increase awareness, support, and resources for neurodiverse couples—in which one or both members has an Asperger/Autism spectrum profile—by providing specialized training for therapists to recognize, understand, and treat this unique population.

Why Neurology Matters

The Importance of Understanding Neurodiversity when Treating Neurodiverse Couples in Therapy

A couple is neurodiverse when one or both partners has an Asperger / Autism Spectrum profile. Because neurological differences between partners affects the dynamics of their relationship, including their communication, behavior, and ability to perceive each other’s perspectives, therapists must understand that neurology matters when working on the couple’s issues.

Neurology cannot be separated from a person — it affects personality, strengths, talents, and challenges — as well as the way a person views the world, thinks, speaks, behaves, and feels.

Neurology matters a great deal in an intimate relationship, since it impacts every conversation a couple has, how they make decisions together, how they raise children together, how they live together, and how they achieve goals together.

Meet Eric Endlich, Ph.D. and his wife Kris. Eric is therapist, a Neurodiverse Couples Institute Advisory Team member, and a partner with an Asperger profile.

The Importance of Support for Neurodiverse Couples

Support for neurodiverse couples and partners is important to help validate and normalize their unique relationships. We offer a variety of different types of services and resources for neurodiverse couples together or for each partner separately.

AANE Support Services & Resources

Find a Neurodiverse Couples Therapist or Coach Trained and Certified by AANE

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Coaches provide services for partners together or separately nationwide or worldwide. They reside in the state where their green map pin is.

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Therapists

State City Therapist Name Email Address Phone Number Web Site Street Address Zip Code
Massachusetts Wellesley Harriet Simons, Ph.D., LICSW hfsimons@aol.com 781-237-3317 10 Woodridge Road 2.482
New York New York Leslie Sickels, LCSW lesliesickelslcsw@gmail.com 740-709-6015 303 5th Avenue, Suite 1005a, Office #3 10.016
Massachusetts Needham Carol Feldman Bass cfeldmanbass@gmail.com 781-559-3196 10 Chestnut Street 2.492
Massachusetts Newton Centre Peggy Kriss, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist in Massachusetts Peggy.Kriss@gmail.com 617 513 1192 10 Langley Road, Suite 200 2.459
Massachusetts Arlington Michael Glenn, LICSW michaelzglenn@yahoo.com 781-879-0607 37 Tanager St. 2.476
Georgia Atlanta Stephanie C. Holmes, MA, Certified Autism Specialist rev.stephaniecholmes@gmail.com 404-536-8527 Located in the Perimeter Area 30.338
California Canning Vale Zoe Parry (Psychologist) zoe@amherstpsychology.com.au 08 94560411 Unit 15, 2 Batman Road 6.155
California San Diego Sarah Cook Ruggera, LMFT sarahruggeramft@gmail.com 8587351139 5230 Carroll Canyon Rd, Site 116 92.121
California Saratoga Melisa Rossmeissl, LMFT melisarmft@gmail.com 408-868-9390 20688 Fourth Street, Suite 5 95.070
California Long Beach/Orange County Mary K. Bell MFT marykbell@earthlink.net 562-883-1584 90.808
Queensland, AUSTRALIA Spring Hill Janelle Homan hello@janellehoman.com +61738397679 3/400 Gregory Tce 4.060
California Long Beach Denise Robinson, LCSW, CASWCM, CDWF den.rob@verizon.net 562-537-2646 9337 Marina Pacifica Dr N 90.803
North Carolina Cary Carrie Mitran, Ph.D., LCMHC, NCC, ACAS carrie@neurodiversetalk.com 984.292.9120 27.518
New York New York Katherine Cody, PsyD, Licensed Psychologist drcody@spectrumpsychservices.com 917-512-7751 303 Fifth Ave. Ste. 1005, Office #13 10.016
Pennsylvania Newtown Stephanie DeSouza, MSW desouza@newtowntherapy.com 2672583974 17 Barclay St 18.940
Gloucestershire, UK Stroud Margy Wakefield margywakefield@gmail.com +44 7703 643 403 The Byre, Bidfield Barns, The Camp 0
Maryland Towson Christa Marvenko-Athas, LCSW-C christa@christamarvenkoathas.com 410-916-8383 305 W. Chesapeake Avenue Suite L-12 21.204
Massachusetts Boston Remy Springer, LICSW remy@remyspringer.com 2.109
Maine Kennebunk Wilma Wake, LCSW Wilma.wake@gmail.com 207 329-9730 62 Portland Rd. Suit 46 4.043
North Carolina Raleigh Kathy Honeyman, LCSW, NBC-HWC kathyhoneyman@earthlink.net 9196028433 5946 Sentinel Drive 27.609
South Australia, AUSTRALIA Glenside Robyn Blake-Mortimer robyn@tunedincouples.com +61 423 617 735 16 Allinga Avenue 5.065
Michigan Ann Arbor Patricia M McCarthy, LMSW, LICSW pat.mccarthy.sw@gmail.com 734-726-0253 2232 South Main St., #334 48.103
Ciudad de México Mexico City Cecilia Paredes cparedes0608@gmail.com +525558070079 11.550
Illinois Chicago Genevieve C. Thornton, Psy.D. gthornton@sociabilitychicago.org 847-559-3240 500 North Dearbornt, #1012 Chicago IL 60654 60.654
Massachusetts Boston Landing Kathy A. McMahon admin@couplestherapyinc.com 6172401242 125 Guest Street #1503 1.026
Massachusetts Boston Daniel Dashnaw MFT admin@couplestherapyinc.com 413-358-5028 125 Guest St Boston apt 1503 2.135
Massachusetts DRACUT Catherine Pfuntner, LMFT, CSAC, ICADC Individualandcouplestherapy@proton.me (978) 674-8539 72 Morris Street 1.826
New Hampshire Wilton Catherine Pfuntner, LMFT, CSAC, ICADC Individualandcouplestherapy@proton.me (978) 674-8539 3.086
Florida Naples Rebecca Lanier, LMFT Rebecca@RebeccaLanierLMFT.com 2397191060 34.109
Rhode Island Providence Kendra Capalbo, LICSW kcapalbolicsw@gmail.com 4018681177 193 Waterman Street 2.906
Maharashtra, INDIA Mumbai Merzia Maskati Shewakramani, M.A. CCC-SLP (USA), CPSP (Australia) merzia@sdlc.co.in +919820078320 Merzia Maskati, 2nd Floor, Maskati Corner Building, 37 Altamount Road, Kemps Corner 400.026
California Pasadena Dr. Ali Arena Ed.D CCC-SLP, BCBA ali@thecommunicationarena.com 6103067979 511 S El Molino ave 91.101
New Hampshire Nashua Kim Bolling, Psy.D. kbollingtherapy@gmail.com 603-400-6160 154 Broad Street St 1527D 3.063
Washington DC Washington DC Dr. Rahimeh Andalibian rahimeh@rahimeh.com 9496003577 1054 31st St NW #500 20.007
Maryland Severna Park Kory Chase korychaselcswc@gmail.com 301-304-1825 815 Ritchie Hwy Ste 208 21.146
Illinois St Charles Laura Schreiner, LCPC, NCC Lucid@Lauranc.com (847) 373-9220 Virtual Practice 60.174
GERMANY Berlin Constanze Schwärzer-Dutta constanze.schwaerzer@gmx.net 00491736001917 Am Sudhaus 2 12.053
Oregon Lake Oswego Jill Corvelli PhD LPC jill@jillcorvelli.com 971-279-6530 328 Kenwood Rd 97.034
Virginia Ashburn Lida Far, LPC lida@crystalcounselingandcoaching.com 571-315-6471 Virtual Practice 20.147
Georgia Alpharetta Cheryl A. Rhodes, LMFT, LPC cheryl.rhodes22@gmail.com 4046809250 30.022
Mexico Naucalpan de Juarez Maria Fernanda Cruz de Terrein ferterrein@aol.com +52 55 1800 3083 Privada de tanforan 29 lomas hipodromo 53.900
Texas Austin Jordana Raiskin, LCSW Jordana.Raiskin@gmail.com 512-445-1975 4131 Spicewood Springs Rd., Suite D-4 78.759
Utah Salt Lake City Kristina Feldman, PhD kristina.feldman@hsc.utah.edu 801-585-9107 240 E Morris Ave, Suite 400 84.115
Massachusetts Great Barrington Ephrat David, LMHC, MFT edavid212@hush.com 413-212-9192 10 Knob Hill Rd. 1.230
British Columbia, CANADA Abbotsford Teresa Stewart tstewartse@icloud.com 6043082209 2267 Ridgeway St 0
Hawaii Honolulu Shea Nakamura, MFT shea.nakamura.mft@gmail.com (808) 650-4678 P.O. Box 240991 96.824
British Columbia Fort St John Danielle Peloquin danielle@mentalmaintenance.ca 7787222282 #234 10704 97ave 0
Texas Dallas Lyndsey Luther, MS, LPC lmurray@relationshipmatterstx.com 469-464-9403 75.248
Pennsylvania York Susan Newman M.A., L.P.C. susynewman@gmail.com 303-519-3373 2530 Cape Horn Rd 17.402
California Santa Monica Nicole Moore, M.A. nicole@thecentermethod.com 310.957.9191 2716 Wilshire Blvd 90.403
Massachusetts Chelsea Donna DeLone, LICSW, AASECT donnadelone@gmail.com 5082841869 60 Dudley Street #312 2.150
Colorado Lakewood Julianne Cusick, MA, MFTC julianne@restoringthesoul.com 7202701997 7175 W JEFFERSON AVE STE 4400 80.235
California San Mateo Stephen Robertson MA ATR-P AMFT stephendavidrobertson1966@gmail.com 6505139866 190 41ST AVENUE 94.403
California Campbell Leah Avni LCSW leahavni@gmail.com 7023254063 2542 S. Bascom Ave Suite 100 95.008
Illinois Peoria Karen L. Watson, LCSW karenwas2002@yahoo.com 13099890052 4324 W TARA CIR 61.615
Maryland Lutherville Timothy C. Donovan tcdonovanlcsw@gmail.com 410-583-2622 2324 West Joppa Road, Suite 220 21.093
New York Massapequa Tarah Midy tarahmidy@gmail.com 11.758
New York New York Andrea Brensilber, LCSW abrensilber@gmail.com 9178067611 10.075
Indiana Indianapolis Laurie Budlong-Morse, LMFT support@lauriebmorse.com 317-800-7415 815 E 63rd Pl 46.220
Maryland Chevy Chase Alix Mansbach, Psy.D. amansbach@caatonline.com 2404240184 8401 Connecticut Ave 20.816
Texas Denton Emily Sibley, LMSW, CCTS-I emily@emergingbutterflycounseling.net 940-233-6960 2214 Emery Street, Suite 530 76.201
Iowa Des Moines Greg Fuqua, T-LMHC, MA, Clinical Mental Health Counseling gfuqua70@gmail.com 5152317178 or 5152558399 600 42nd Street 50.312
New York Hartsdale, NY Steve Laffer, PhD DrLaffer@gmail.com 914-472-8781 10.530
British Columbia, CANADA Abbotsford Camille Long, RCC, RSW theholdingspacebc@protonmail.com 604-217-7134 20-33497 Bevan Ave. 0
Utah Salt Lake City Krista D. Clement MSW, LCSW kristadcounseling@gmail.com 8014002190 84.062
Arizona Little Rock Allison Reichert, MEd, LPC, NCC Allison.Reichert.LPC@pm.me 314-563-1330 95 St. Thomas Ct. 72.211
Florida Plantation Joely Spencer Ph.D., LMFT joelyspencerphd@gmail.com 754-715-9774 9641 NW 11th St. 33.322
Georgia Atlanta Amanda Platner, PsyD, ABPP amanda.k.platner@emory.edu 4047278350 1551 Shoup Ct. 30.322
California Los Angeles Madylynn Snyder, AMFT madysnydertherapy@gmail.com 626-765-4160 90.042
Colorado Denver Lindsay Melka LPC lindsay@empathicdenver.com 720 295 5490 3320 E 2nd Ave 80.206
California Laguna Beach Dr. Rahimeh Andalibian rahimehlb@gmail.com 9496003577 312 Broadway St 92.651
New York NY Dr. Rahimeh Andalibian Draconnect@gmail.com 9496003577 303 Fifth Avenue, Suite 1005, Office #1 10.016
Massachusetts Ashby Patricia M McCarthy, LMSW, LICSW pat.mccarthy.sw@gmail.com 734-726-0253 10 Common Road 4.132
Massachusetts Chelmsford Kim Bolling, Psy.D. kbollingtherapy@gmail.com 603-400-6160 0
Florida Tallahassee Melisa Rossmeissl, LMFT melisarmft@gmail.com 408-868-9390 0
Hawaii Honolulu Catherine Pfuntner, LMFT, CSAC, ICADC Individualandcouplestherapy@proton.me (978) 674-8539 0
Arizona Phoenix Kathy A. McMahon admin@couplestherapyinc.com 6172401242 0
California Los Angeles Kathy A. McMahon admin@couplestherapyinc.com 6172401242 0
Florida Orlando Kathy A. McMahon admin@couplestherapyinc.com 6172401242 0
Colorado Boulder Carrie Mitran, Ph.D., LCMHC, NCC, ACAS carrie@neurodiversetalk.com 984.292.9120 80.301
California San Francisco Carrie Mitran, Ph.D., NCC, ACAS, Behavioral Analyst carrie@neurodiversetalk.com 984.292.9120 94.117
Massachusetts Cambridge Kendra Capalbo, LICSW kcapalbolicsw@gmail.com 4018681177 3 Concord Ave, Suite 43 2.138
New Jersey Hoboken Dr. Ali Arena Ed.D CCC-SLP, BCBA ali@thecommunicationarena.com 6103067979 0
New Hampshire Concord Wilma Wake, LCSW Wilma.wake@gmail.com 207 329-9730 4.043
New Jersey Upper Saddle River Lida Far, LPC lida@crystalcounselingandcoaching.com 571-315-6471 Virtual Practice 0
New York White Plains Lida Far, LPC lida@crystalcounselingandcoaching.com 571-315-6471 Virtual Practice 0
Maryland Bethesda Lida Far, LPC lida@crystalcounselingandcoaching.com 571-315-6471 Virtual Practice 0
Virginia McLean Lida Far, LPC lida@crystalcounselingandcoaching.com 571-315-6471 Virtual Practice 0
Washington DC Washington DC Lida Far, LPC lida@crystalcounselingandcoaching.com 571-315-6471 Virtual Practice 0
Illinois Chicago Lida Far, LPC lida@crystalcounselingandcoaching.com 571-315-6471 Virtual Practice 0
Florida Miami Lida Far, LPC lida@crystalcounselingandcoaching.com 571-315-6471 Virtual Practice 0
Washington Seattle Jill Corvelli PhD LPC jill@jillcorvelli.com 971-279-6530 Virtual Practice 0
Alabama Huntsville Patricia M McCarthy, LMSW, LICSW pat.mccarthy.sw@gmail.com 734-726-0253 6275 University Drive N.W, 37-113 35.806
New Jersey Stone Harbor Laura Schreiner, LCPC, NCC Lucid@Lauranc.com (847) 373-9220 Virtual Practice 8.247
Connecticut Greenwich Steve Laffer, PhD DrLaffer@gmail.com 914-472-8781 0
New Jersey Montvale Steve Laffer, PhD DrLaffer@gmail.com 914-472-8781 0
New York New York Benjamin Meyer, LCSW-R benjaminmeyerlcsw@gmail.com (347)-768-3909 10.002
Pennsylvania Philadelphia Benjamin Meyer, LCSW-R benjaminmeyerlcsw@gmail.com (347)-768-3909 19.019
New Jersey Teaneck Benjamin Meyer, LCSW-R benjaminmeyerlcsw@gmail.com (347)-768-3909 7.666
Texas Austin Megan Barnes Zesati, LCSW megan@meganbarneszesati.com (512) 590-2714 78.759
Massachusetts Boston Megan Barnes Zesati, LCSW megan@meganbarneszesati.com (512) 590-2714 2.108
Florida Orlando Megan Barnes Zesati, LCSW megan@meganbarneszesati.com (512) 590-2714 32.789
California San Francisco Caroline Belli, LCSW cbelli401@gmail.com

Coaches

Coaching with AANE's Neurodiverse Couples Coach

Neurodiverse couples coaching sessions offer couples individualized sessions together or with one or both partners separately, whatever works best. The focus is on problem-solving in the relationship through a neurological lens, coping strategies for one or both partners, and relational and communication skill-building. The coach will also offer support, tools, and other resources.

Learn more, sign up for Neurodiverse Couples Coaching

Support Groups for Neurodiverse Couples & Partners

Groups offer the opportunity to connect and interact with other neurodiverse couples with shared experiences and issues. Meet together in a couples group or in groups for each partner separately. Both partners begin to see commonalities amongst their group members which helps with understanding themselves, their partners, and the unique challenges that neurodiverse couples face. They share resources and strategies and can help each partner know that they are not alone.

Learn more, sign up for Groups

Diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder

A formal diagnosis can be validating for each member of a neurodiverse couple. For the partner with an Asperger profile who may have felt like they never fit in, it can bring a sense of relief to understand that their differences are neurologically based. For the neurotypical partner, it can explain why communication is difficult in their relationship, why they do not feel an intimate connection with their partner, and why they feel so alone. Not only can a diagnosis validate each partner’s experiences, it can help increase understanding and compassion for each partner and can lead to helpful resources and referrals.

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