Couples/Partners

Intimate relationships can provide rewarding connections and challenging experiences. A partner might be the first person to identify Asperger traits in an individual who has been successful in other areas of life. Intimate relationships can be hard for anyone, but they are especially challenging when partners have different perspectives, communication techniques, approaches, and skill sets. With the right information and support, these differences can be understood and respected from both sides. Whether you are the partner of an individual with an Asperger profile or you fit the profile yourself, we are here to provide you with information and direct support you need to help your relationship thrive. We are available to help in-person as well as online and over the phone.

Essential Resources:
AANE Services and Supports

Support & Coaching Groups and Online Discussion Forums
Neurodiverse Couple’s Coaching
101 For Couples: Self-paced, 3-hour online course
The Peter M. Friedman Neurodiverse Couples Institute: Training & Resources for Couples and Couples Therapists

Information and Education

Resources for LGBTQIA+ Individuals
Diagnosis Information
Conferences, Webinar, and Workshops

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Parenting Together

04/05/2022
Parenting has always been a unique challenge for me and an area where I am constantly evolving daily. As an adult on the spectrum with kids, I have noticed also that my approach to parenting is very different compared to my spouse. I have noticed that my spouse has grown up paying attention to... more

Mutually Assured Distraction

10/05/2021
  Gus and Leah are a married couple on the autism spectrum and members of the AANE Speaker's Bureau. Read their full bio here. ***** We are an adult couple, both of us on the autism spectrum, married for almost exactly five years. Gus is more of a classic STEM geek, working as a computer... more

Understanding Neurodiverse Relationships

10/05/2021
For over 20 years, Grace Myhill has worked with neurodiverse couples and has pioneered specialized training for therapists in how to work with neurodiverse couples more effectively. Here Grace discusses some of the key areas she addresses with neurodiverse couples and what she has learned over the... more

“Neurodiverty Experts Talk” Interview with Grace Myhill

01/29/2021
The following is a transcript of the radio interview with Grace Myhill, MSW on the show "Neurodiversity Experts Talk," conducted by Nathalie Tandiwe on WBAI 99.5 FM. To listen to a recording of the interview, click here. (Program begins around the 2:10 time mark.) Learn more about AANE's course... more

Perspectives on Adult Life: An Adult Panel Discusses Living with AS/ASD (Part 1 of 4)

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Dating and Relationships

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The arena of dating and finding someone special continues to be an issue for many people on the autism spectrum. Executive Director Dania Jekel discusses this topic and offers advice to those with Asperger/autism profiles who are considering whether or not a relationship is right for them. To... more

Neurodiverse Relationships

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While any relationship can have its challenges, couples in a neurodiverse relationship (where one or both partners are on the autism spectrum) can face a unique set of issues. Dania Jekel, Executive Director of AANE, explores this difference and announces AANE's new training for therapists to... more

Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Partnerships

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Do you feel like your partner is "speaking a different language"? Does this communication impact important conversations you want to have with your partner? While communication is vital for all relationships, unique challenges can arise when there is neurodiversity between partners. Whether... more

First Person Account: Dating Challenges with an Asperger Profile

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As an individual with an Asperger profile, AANE community member Sam Farmer reflects on some of the communication challenges he faced while he was dating and how he how he learned to become more... more

Romantic Relationships with Asperger’s and Autism: Successful Strategies for Couples and Spouses

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Viewing Marriage and Long Term Relationships Through an Asperger’s Lens

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Sarah Hendrickx – Hiding in Plain Sight: Shining Light on Women with Asperger/Autism Profiles –…

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 Sarah Hendrickx presents at the Asperger/Autism Network's conference, "Hiding in Plain Sight: Shining Light on Women with Asperger/Autism Profiles." March... more

AANE’s Online Training for Therapists Gives Hope to Neurodiverse Couples

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Grace Myhill l Autism Spectrum News l January 1, 2020 l winter 2020 issue     In 2018, AANE launched our NEUROLOGY MATTERS IN COUPLES THERAPY online training. Since then, 27 therapists have completed both TRAINING 101: Fundamentals of Working with Neurodiverse Couples in Therapy,... more

Neurology Matters in Couples Therapy

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January 11, 2019 Working with neurodiverse couples is more complicated than neurotypical couples. In order to help the couple work as a unified team, the therapist first has to help the partners understand each other’s neurological differences. The therapist has to understand each partner’s... more

Married, with Asperger’s

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He’s finally trained! My husband of 26 years has scarcely completed a single one of my sentences all this year. Like most neurotypical people, Christopher has a tendency to want to finish someone’s sentence when there is a pause. That is not helpful for me! I received my diagnosis of... more