Siblings

Having a brother or sister with an Asperger profile can be both rewarding and difficult for the neurotypical (NT) sibling. Brothers and sisters have the longest relationship with each other in a family. When children are growing up together, they may feel confused about why their brother or sister had different rules or consequences. It’s important to provide siblings with information and support, so that they can understand and enjoy their sibling now and into adulthood.

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Through a Sister’s Eyes

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As soon as we get into the car, he grabs my iPod and eagerly searches for his favorite song. “I Like to Move It” from the Madagascar soundtrack begins to thump through the speakers and Adam turns to me saying “I can’t resist the urge to dance to this song, the beat is just so good, you know what I mean?” I respond and begin to sing along... more

Sibling Corner: Normality in Reality

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Life for every person in the human world begins the same. Every mother and father have a child the same way; yet the outcome is always different. Siblings can be alike, and strangers could look faintly similar, but everyone in this world is different. Sometimes, kids are born with skills, like math or singing. And sometimes people are born with... more

Sibling Rivalry: Keeping Things in Perspective

11/23/2016
My name is Chase, I’m 25, and I have Non-Verbal Learning Disorder. My brother is two years younger than I am, and does not have any diagnoses. Not only is he younger than I, he also developed faster than most people. He became a black belt, hung out with his numerous friends or created things... more

Building a Better Summer or What to do With Your Child’s Summer Vacation

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AANE Gala 2011 Fund-A-Need Speech

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Meg Chittenden talks about growing up with a brother with Asperger... more

Siblings of Asperger Adults Share Their Stories: A Panel Discussion

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Hear brothers and sisters of Asperger adults talk about growing up with their sibling on the autism... more

Sibling Rivalry Meets Neurodiversity

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For siblings of those with Asperger Syndrome or who are on the Autism spectrum, things can seem very unfair. This video looks at the sibling dynamic, the perspective of the neurotypical sibling and the ways parents can address the situation... more

Fewer Meltdowns! Practical Strategies for Fostering Positive Behavior in Children & Teens with AS

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Brenda Dater, author of Parenting without Panic, shares practical strategies for fewer... more

Parenting without Panic with Brenda Dater

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Brenda Dater, author of Parenting without Panic, shares practical guidance for parents of children and teens on the autism spectrum; helping all parents feel less... more

Life, Animated

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This is the real-life story of Owen Suskind, the son of the Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Ron Suskind and his wife, Cornelia. An autistic boy who couldn't speak for years, Owen memorized dozens of Disney movies, turned them into a language to express love and loss, kinship, brotherhood.The... more

Brotherly Feelings: Me, My Emotions and My Brother with Asperger’s Syndrome

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Brothers and sisters of children with special needs can often feel neglected and lonely. Sam and his mother wrote this book so other kids would know what it feels like to live with a brother or sister who has an Asperger's profile. Brotherly Feelings explores the mixed emotions that siblings... more

Considering the Needs of Siblings of Individuals With Asperger Profiles

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It is important that families of children with Asperger profiles also consider the special needs of the neurotypical (NT) siblings of these children. The good news is that studies comparing “typical” siblings of children with special needs to matched siblings have found the first group to have no greater chance of having psychological problems... more

FAMILY: Make Way for a New Definition

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 “Plant a radish, get a radish, never any doubt. That’s why I like vegetables; you know what they’re about.”Words by Tom Jones from The FantastiksCommonly Shared Family Expectations1.       Children will eat what is served.2.       Dinner is eaten as a family.3.       Families take vacations... more

How to Handle Meltdowns

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Many children with Asperger profiles have meltdowns. After a meltdown parents can feel exhausted and wonder if they responded correctly. If you have a child who has meltdowns, consider the following:Not all meltdowns look alike: There are a variety of behaviors that occur when a child has lost the ability to stay calm or regulated. They... more

Simple Steps to Help Your Child Follow Through on Tasks

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Many parents find that their children resist doing jobs at home especially when tasks have multiple steps that are not explicit. Daily requests like; ”Clean your room,” or “Take the trash out”, or “We’re leaving, get ready,” or  “Play with your sister,” may seem to be ignored or result in a meltdown. But there are strategies... more

Strategies for Surviving the Holidays

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With Your Extended Family: Normalize the chaos.  Don’t expect that everything will go perfectly even if you preview, plan and use every strategy in the book.  Decide for yourself what is really important and what you can live without.  One mom who had been very keen on the perfect family photo in front of the Christmas tree... more

Throw Away The Yardstick or The Blessing of the Diagnosis

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Many of us started this journey through the now famous metaphor of visiting Holland. If you haven’t read Emily Perl Kingsley’s brilliant essay on having a child with special needs, read it here. In it, she compares getting ready to have a baby to planning a trip to Italy—only expectant parents could think of parenting as a trip to one of... more

Dear Grandma and Grandpa, I’m Not a Bad Kid

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Dear Grandma and Grandpa,I know you think I'm rude sometimes. The last time you tried to take me to the movies I screamed and put my hands over my ears because it was too loud and you got mad at me and said I ruined the movie for my little sister. Afterwards, when I was pacing in the back of the restaurant, you told me I needed to sit down... more

Parenting without Panic: A Pocket Support Group for Parents of Children and Teens on the…

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Ever wish that parenting a child or teen on the autism spectrum came with instant access to a support group? Brenda Dater has provided parents with exactly that. In this book she draws on her extensive experience as a support group leader and parent of a child on the spectrum to offer trusted... more

Using Visual Schedules on the Weekend

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Ever have the experience of waking up Saturday morning with a plan for how the day should proceed?  Guess what, your child on the autism spectrum does too! Often the parent and child perspectives differ concerning what should happen during the weekend. One strategy that can help address these differing expectations and clarify what will happen is... more

Asperger Profiles: The Big Picture-Challenges

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While respecting the abilities and humanity of people with Asperger profiles, one should not underestimate their struggles and suffering they might endure. A society designed for and dominated by the neurotypical majority can feel uncongenial and even overwhelming for a person with an Asperger... more